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How to Survive Being a Caregiver

It’s good to be back writing after a tough few months. For the last couple of years, I was a caregiver for my boyfriend’s father as he battled with Cancer. He lived with us for a while and we both took care of him until he lost his fight with this horrible disease in June. This was one of the hardest things to go through. I got close to him and loved him like family. I miss him and think about him daily. We watched him decline and at times I felt useless in fighting this fight with him.

As a Wellness Coach, I understand the dynamics of disease and what it does to a person emotionally and physically. But being on the other side is a different story. As a caregiver, it was so challenging to give him the space he needed and know what the right thing to do for him was. So today I thought I would share some of what we went through to help other caregivers deal with their struggles.

The Challenges of a Caregiver

As a person who has experienced chronic pain daily, I understand the struggle on the part of the patient. You feel alone, you feel worthless and useless at times and it’s hard because you don’t feel like a contributing member of society sometimes. You are in pain and most likely struggle with Depression and Anxiety at some point during your fight. The caregiver can also feel similar emotions as well during the journey.

I never fully realized the challenges of a caregiver until I actually had to go through it personally.

Even as a healthcare professional, treating people with injuries in my massage therapy practice is totally different than caring for a loved one in so many ways. There are totally different struggles when you are in the position of a caregiver. You never really get a break especially if you live with the patient. It’s always on your mind how you can do better and help them have a better quality of life.

And if you are sensitive like me, you feel deeply saddened and troubled by the loss of the quality of life for that person. It could be very frustrating and does affect your quality of life as well as the dynamics of your relationships. In my case, thankfully, it made us stronger and closer than ever. Thank God. I am grateful for the opportunity to help and also feel very blessed to have been trusted with the enormous responsibility of caring for a sick loved one.

Self-Care for the Caregiver

I always promote self-care especially when you are under a large amount of stress. But guess what- sometimes there really is no drive to take care of yourself when you are caring for others. It is just a reality. Although it is difficult and you may not have the time, money, or energy it is essential to engage in some sort of self-care as a caregiver. YOU NEED RESPITE!!

I tried my best to do as much self-care as possible during this journey. And honestly, it never felt like enough at times but I know it helped me through it. When you are entrenched in caregiving you often don’t think of taking care of yourself. It is the last thing on your mind.

However, it is so necessary to restore your strength and energy to care for others in need. You may just have to force yourself to do it. Believe me, you will be happy when you do. Everyone needs a break every once in a while and you have to believe you deserve a break! I know this is a hard concept, especially for parents. You are not helping or being fair to anyone if you are coming from a broken down and stressed place.

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Tips on Being a Good Caregiver

Be patient

Be kind

Don’t assume anything. You can never know how someone else is feeling.

Ask if they need and want help before just doing things for them

Learn about their disease or condition to understand it better

Spend time with them and offer a caring ear if they need to vent

Don’t offer medical advice.. leave that to the professionals!

Help them find the best professional team for medical and alternative care

Teach them some self-care tips you are aware of

Don’t forget to take care of yourself too!


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Moving Forward

There is a void in our house now that my “father in law” is gone. I miss taking care of him and still feel his presence in the house. I don’t know when that feeling will go away… if ever. We do our best to move on and keep his memory alive.

If you are or have been in a similar caregiving situation, please comment and share some of your own tips on how to survive and what has worked for you. I always love hearing from you!

Stay positive and know you are a very special person for doing what you do. I know it’s not easy but it can be rewarding if you look on the bright side.

xoxo

Jill DeMasi is a Lifestyle Blogger, Licensed Massage Therapist, and a Certified Wellness Coach with a passion for helping others manage stress, chronic pain, and anxiety. Learn more about her journey and wellness practice that offers natural solutions to stress at www.AtTheHeartofWellness.com.

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this document is for general education purposes only and is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any disease or medical conditions. Check with your health practitioner before making diet and lifestyle changes.

Roots of Illness- Part 2

There are many origins of disease in the body.  Functional medicine philosophy is finding the root causes of disease.  Let’s look at additional roots of illness I learned about in my NIWH course presented by New York Times -bestselling author, lecturer, and practicing physician Mark A. Hyman, M.D. Each of these can be explored separately in the future because there is just so much more information to know and understand. In case you missed it, here is the first post about the Roots of Illness.

4 Causes of Disease

Gut and Digestive Health

Gut problems are the most common reason that people go to the doctor. Problems in the gut are usually connected to some other underlying issue in the body. The digestive system’s job is to keep out the bad bacteria and let in the good healthy nutrients. If there is damage in the digestive tube then the nutrients cannot be assimilated and absorbed.

Bacteria in the gut have many purposes which include digesting food, producing vitamins, regulating hormones, excreting toxins, and making healing chemicals. Diseases can arise with unresolved issues in the gut.

An excess of allergic foods like wheat, corn, dairy, soy, eggs, yeast, bacteria, and parasites are damaging to the intestines because they are all inflammatory.

A leaky gut is when toxins, foods, and bacteria leak into the bloodstream and then cause illness. A low fiber, high sugar processed food diet will cause this to happen.


Toxic Load

Toxins create a burden and eventually cause break down in the body over time.

Being exposed to mercury, mold or other chemicals weaken the immune system and overload the liver which is our detoxifying organ.

Lack of activity will slow down blood flow, circulation, and lymph flow so that toxins will remain in the body and not be eliminated.  Lack of sleep and constipation will also slow down the elimination of toxins and is harmful to your health. Therefore, an abundance of toxins can most definitely result in the disease process. 

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Creating Energy

Our bodies need energy consistently throughout the day so that our cells and organs can work appropriately.

The mitochondria are the place in the cell that burns food and oxygen to make us energy. This area is easily injured by toxins, infections, allergens, stress, and eating too many calories.

It affects our metabolism and can quickly lead to burn out, make us age more quickly and feel tired and also produce aches and pains. Exercising in a smart way helps to create more energy otherwise it is just another negative stress on the body. Not getting enough nutrients – vitamins, minerals, water, oxygen all affect our energy production.


Mind-Body Connection 

Our attitudes, social network, community, and spiritual beliefs all have a role in affecting our biological systems. In other words, the body affects the mind and the mind affects the body.

Imbalances in hormones cause digestive issues, depression, anxiety, degenerative, and other chronic diseases. As well as vitamin and mineral deficiencies, food allergies, and heavy metal toxicity.

There is a chemical reaction when we have a thought or emotion and it gets communicated to the rest of the body and can cause both positive and negative physiological consequences.

For instance, changing your thoughts, relaxation techniques, good sleep patterns, and building a solid social network are all ways to balance out the mind and body. 

Hyman, M. (2032) Functional Medicine NIWH media course. The Seven Roots of Illness. Retrieved from http://www.classroom.wholepersonhealthcare.org

Make Healthy Changes & Prevent Disease 

It is good to take into consideration all of these roots of illness.  Above all, prevention is the key to avoid disease.  Tell me what are some ways you can make some healthy changes in your life to avoid aging and disease?

xoxo

Jill DeMasi is a Lifestyle Blogger, Licensed Massage Therapist, and a Certified Wellness Coach with a passion for helping others manage Stress, Chronic Pain, and Anxiety. Learn more about her journey and wellness practice that offers natural solutions to stress at www.AtTheHeartofWellness.com.

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this document is for general education purposes only and is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any disease or medical conditions. Check with your health practitioner before making diet and lifestyle changes.

Roots of Illness- Part 1

What is your understanding of health and disease? There are so many factors in play that contribute to illness. When I was in Coaching school at The National Institute of Whole Health (NIWH), I learned a lot about evidence-based ways to prevent disease. In addition, I learned how to make sustainable lifestyle changes to improve the well-being and quality of life.  

What is Functional Medicine?

One of the most interesting courses I took during my time at NIWH was Functional Medicine. This course was presented by the New York Times -bestselling author, lecturer, and practicing physician Mark A. Hyman, M.D. Dr. Hyman is a leader in the emerging field of functional medicine.

Functional medicine is an approach to health care and healing that looks at the whole person and seeks to find the cause and effect of the disease.

Dr. Hyman is one of my favorite doctors to follow for current and helpful guidance on recovering from disease and chronic conditions. In this NIWH course, he taught the 7 Roots of Illness. Below are the first 3. Stay tuned for the other 4 in my blog next week!

The Roots of Illness

Environmental Inputsdiet, lifestyle, toxins, stress, physical and emotional trauma.

The health of our “soil”, our inner terrain, has everything to do with how we react to stressors in the environment and whether or not we break down or fight off disease. The quality of our diet is key in avoiding chronic disease. It is best to focus on eating whole foods instead of the traditional American diet of high carb, sugar, and processed foods.

Our environment and relationships can cause significant stress on our minds and bodies as well as financial worries, family, and work issues.  For instance, exposure to toxins like mold, heavy metals, pesticides, and other industrial chemicals are also factors. Any type of trauma that we endure in life will affect our health in a negative way. Even exercise can be stressful if it is too intense and can eventually wear out our bodies. 


Inflammatory Process 

Our immune systems are constantly under attack. We all have some inflammation in our bodies already and our lifestyle choices can make it worse. Silent inflammation does not cause symptoms and is like a fire that is out of control in our body. For instance, poor diet, toxins, allergens, and medications like NSAIDs, aspirin, and steroids are linked to increased inflammation. 


Biological Equilibrium – Hormones and Neurotransmitters

If hormones are out of harmony it will affect the rest of your body. There is a connection between the endocrine system, immune system, neurological system, and digestive system through these chemical communicators. The hormones like insulin, cortisol, adrenalin, and thyroid control many of our body’s messages and keep us in balance.

The neurotransmitters like serotonin that balances mood and dopamine that deals with attention help to maintain homeostasis.  For example, too much insulin by sugar consumption causes many detrimental effects on the body such as affecting metabolism. Stored belly fat, high blood pressure, increased cancer cells, increased cravings, and appetite are factors.

Hyman, M. (2032) Functional Medicine NIWH media course. The Seven Roots of Illness. Retrieved from http://www.classroom.wholepersonhealthcare.org

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Avoid Chronic Illness

Keep these in mind when thinking about your own wellness and know that there are many factors that affect health and the disease process. Above all,  if you are ever in need of some extra coaching I am just a phone call away! Stay tuned for the next 4 roots of illness in the next blog post.

xoxo

Jill DeMasi is a Lifestyle Blogger, Licensed Massage Therapist, and a Certified Wellness Coach with a passion for helping others manage Stress, Chronic Pain, and Anxiety. Learn more about her journey and wellness practice that offers natural solutions to stress at www.AtTheHeartofWellness.com.

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this document is for general education purposes only and is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any disease or medical conditions. Check with your health practitioner before making diet and lifestyle changes.

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How Stress Affects Your Mind & Body

As a Massage Therapist, I see every day how STRESS affects people’s emotional and physical health. For a long time, I didn’t realize how much chronic stress impacts the different systems of our body.  Have you ever considered how lifestyle choices plus stress can lead to mental and physiological conditions and disease?

What is important to understand is that there are 5 ways that stress affects both your mind and your body. You have more control over your health than you think!

Physical Signs of Stress

Our bodies are able to adapt to a certain level of dysfunction and has an amazing ability to manage some stress for us. There are many signs of distress in our bodies before we suffer from an injury, condition, or disease.

Physical signs of stress include body aches and pains, limited movement in joints, weakness, fatigue from lack of good sleep, brain fog, digestive issues, or decreased energy levels and stiffness. Please don’t fall victim to thinking these symptoms are always related to age. It is critical to have an awareness of how stress is affecting your health and to know that you are in some control of what happens.

  • Doing a little movement every day is helpful to combat stress because it releases those happy hormones. 
  • Sit outside in nature. You will be surprised at how much of a positive impact this can have.
  • Have a daily stretching routine. This will help with flexibility and helps to detox the body as well.

Emotional Check In

The emotional responses of stress can be irritability, frustration, anger, anxiety, and depression. Not expressing your feelings and holding stuff in can lead to all of these outcomes.  There are many positive and healthy ways to deal with emotional stress.

  • Talk with a trusted friend or loved one or find a support group, coach, or therapist. Everyone needs a little extra support once in a while to overcome obstacles.
  • Say positive affirmations. Write them down and repeat daily. Doing this consistently helps to break the negative thought patterns we all tend to have sometimes.
  • Start a daily breathing practice.  Take some deep breaths in and out. This helps to stop that fight or flight response and a simple way to shorten anxiety attacks.
  • Try meditation, prayer, and gratitude practice. Just a few minutes to yourself to quiet your mind is helpful to cope with stress. There are many great apps out there to help with all of these.

Food is a Stressor

Do you know that nutrition is a chemical stressor to the body? Consuming a diet full of sugar, white flour, processed foods, and gluten is highly inflammatory and can make your joints and muscles stiff and tense and cause weight gain. They are also traced back to many chronic illnesses as well.

  • Try an elimination diet. Cut out those inflammatory foods and notice increased energy and better sleep. Eating less processed foods will help to improve digestion and when the gut is healthy you are less likely to have issues in other areas of your body.  You can still enjoy treats but try to limit them. I know it’s hard but your body will thank you for it!
  • Contact a trained Dietitian to get some additional help with which foods are good for your body type. This will help you get on the right path as opposed to falling prey to the many fad diets out there.
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Your Environment

The environment we surround ourselves in can cause a huge amount of stress. At times, we all have work and family stress. Where you find yourself every day has an impact on your health. You always have a choice whether or not to stay in a toxic environment.  We definitely can’t change our families but we do have the choice of who we spend time with. Having a loving and supportive social network is proven to reduce stress.

  • Make an effort to surround yourself with the positive people in your life and limit the negative interaction.
  • Find something to laugh at every day.
  • Schedule fun activities into your calendar to give you something to look forward to.
  • Limit chemicals in your home. Look for natural cleaners that have fewer chemicals. You would be shocked at how these chemicals cause havoc on the nervous system which affects all other systems of the body.

Keep the Faith

Having solid values and spiritual beliefs goes a long way in helping to reduce stress. It takes away the fear and worries you may have or at least puts things into perspective. Being hopeful and understanding that everything happens for a reason has been tremendously helpful in my own battles with stress. Negative thinking perpetuates more negative stuff to happen. Nurturing a positive mindset helps to manage stress levels.

  • Figure out your purpose. Having a purpose in life and helping others has really made it so much easier for me to function.
  • Live in the moment. Be present with yourself and others and be aware of what’s going on around you.
  • Have a spiritual practice. Whatever this means to you. Believing in a higher power keeps stress from becoming overwhelming.

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The Big Picture

Once I had an understanding of the 5 Aspects of Whole Health™© that I learned in coaching school, my perspective changed tremendously.  As a refresher, those are: Physical, Emotional, Nutritional, Environmental, and Spiritual. They outline a big picture of how everything is connected and are all equally important in how they impact health and disease.

Stress can be so harmful if it goes untreated. By just being aware of how stress affects you is the first step. Knowledge is powerful! Try to incorporate more self-care and stress management into your daily life. I promise by doing so it will help you become the best version of yourself and will improve your overall health and mindset. What is one way you are going to manage your stress today?

Jill DeMasi

Jill DeMasi is a Lifestyle Blogger, Licensed Massage Therapist, and a Certified Wellness Coach with a passion for helping others manage stress, chronic pain, and anxiety. Learn more about her journey and wellness practice that offers natural solutions to stress at www.AtTheHeartofWellness.com.

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this document is for general education purposes only and is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any disease or medical conditions. Check with your health practitioner before making diet and lifestyle changes.

Time to Spring Ahead

Happy Spring! I had to take a little break from Blogging for a few weeks but I have definitely missed it! I needed some time away. In addition, I needed to take care of some things in my life. I needed a break and time to breathe. This is a very busy season in the massage therapy field. My practice is blessed with amazing clients. I am so grateful that I love my job and get to help people every day.

To be honest, I have struggled with aches and pains due to Lyme disease and Fibromyalgia that I just can’t ignore anymore. These pains have made it more difficult to work. It is time for me to slow down with massage therapy which makes me sad but it is what’s best for me at this time.

Spring is a Time for Change

After a lot of thought and prayer, going forward, I will only see massage therapy clients 3 days per week. I have wanted to build my practice in different areas for a long time. This seems to be the best time to do so.

For a while, I have been looking for additional therapists to join my practice who offer different therapies and have the same philosophy of care. I am happy to say that I now have 2 amazing therapists who use my office on the days I am not there. God is GOOD!

I can now spend more time on blogging, expanding my coaching business, and growing my corporate chair massage business. Most importantly, I will have more time to take care of my family.

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Moving Forward

Spring is a time to be more active and feels like a time to renew and restore. Are you doing anything in your life to restore your energy and body? What about achieving your goals and dreams?

As a Massage Therapist, I see all sorts of clients for many different reasons but the number one reason is for Stress Management. My favorite topic! We all suffer from it and somehow we still survive. It is just a matter of finding what works for you. Is there anything in your life that you want to change but are afraid to?

Change is not easy ..believe me! With the right support, positive attitude, and faith you can make anything a reality.

Give Yourself a Time Out

Who would love a time out — but not like the one we got when we were kids! A time to vacate our lives for just a moment or maybe even longer to enjoy a real vacation.

Time outs are great to reconnect with yourself, God, loved ones and maybe even those activities you love doing but haven’t made time for.

Remember that self-care list I shared a while back? Take a look again and pick out a few to try out this week. When you slow down and find quiet time, you will notice that the answers you are looking for seem to just come to you more easily. During this Spring season, take care of your needs so you can have the energy for all you need to accomplish.

Tell me what you decide to do for yourself! Even better, send me some of your ideas so I can try some new ones myself!

As always, please reach out if you need some extra support and a Coach in your corner to help you move forward with your goals and dreams 🙂

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xoxo

Jill DeMasi is a Lifestyle Blogger, Licensed Massage Therapist, and a Certified Wellness Coach with a passion for helping others manage Stress, Chronic Pain, and Anxiety. Learn more about her journey and wellness practice that offers natural solutions to stress at www.AtTheHeartofWellness.com.

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Disclaimer: The information contained in this document is for general education purposes only and is not intended to treat, cure, or prevent any disease or medical conditions. Check with your health practitioner before making diet and lifestyle changes.

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